Comments on: Singers-Build a magic bubble, seal it tight, make sure your inside- singing can hurt the ego. http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/singers-build-a-magic-bubble-seal-it-tight-make-sure-your-inside-singing-can-hurt-the-ego Weekly singing tips from Ariella Vaccarino, (voice teacher over 17 years), creator of Voice Lessons TO GO (singing lessons on CD) and author of Vocalize! Tue, 05 Apr 2011 05:14:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: The YUCK of this singing business. | Ariella's Vocal Notes http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/singers-build-a-magic-bubble-seal-it-tight-make-sure-your-inside-singing-can-hurt-the-ego#comment-10334 The YUCK of this singing business. | Ariella's Vocal Notes Wed, 08 Sep 2010 15:08:26 +0000 http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/?p=299#comment-10334 [...] http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/singers-build-a-magic-bubble-seal-it-tight-make-sure-your-inside-si... [...] [...] http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/singers-build-a-magic-bubble-seal-it-tight-make-sure-your-inside-si... [...]

]]> By: ilovemylife http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/singers-build-a-magic-bubble-seal-it-tight-make-sure-your-inside-singing-can-hurt-the-ego#comment-2929 ilovemylife Sat, 20 Feb 2010 21:31:25 +0000 http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/?p=299#comment-2929 This is a very nice post. It is so easy to nurture others, but often we fall short on nurturing ourselves. Recently, I had to muster up the courage to tell someone that came to my house to sing for fun how she was affecting me. (Every time I sang a song, she had a negative comment or a "helpful" comment to make, though I never made anything by nice comments to her. I would never dream of telling someone else how to sing, if I wasn't their teacher or asked for my opinion.) I told her: "Music for me is a joy and a comfort. It is something that gives me space to be me. When I have been working on my singing, I have been hearing an internal voice telling me what is wrong with what I am doing. And it is taking the joy from the experience. I do appreciate you and our time together. I would like to ask that suggestions be kept unless asked for. Do you think we could do that?" I tried to be sensitive to her feelings in how I said my words, but still being true to myself. She thanked me for my candor. And if she hadn't, I was willing to accept the possibility. In a way, I had nothing to lose by expressing myself to her that was valuable. The majority of comments that are positive versus the one ill-thought out negative comment is always a struggle for me and probably most people. I think people that say negative comments say more about their flaws than the flaws they are trying to point out in us. This is a very nice post. It is so easy to nurture others, but often we fall short on nurturing ourselves. Recently, I had to muster up the courage to tell someone that came to my house to sing for fun how she was affecting me. (Every time I sang a song, she had a negative comment or a “helpful” comment to make, though I never made anything by nice comments to her. I would never dream of telling someone else how to sing, if I wasn’t their teacher or asked for my opinion.)

I told her:
“Music for me is a joy and a comfort. It is something that gives me space to be me. When I have been working on my singing, I have been hearing an internal voice telling me what is wrong with what I am doing. And it is taking the joy from the experience. I do appreciate you and our time together. I would like to ask that suggestions be kept unless asked for. Do you think we could do that?”

I tried to be sensitive to her feelings in how I said my words, but still being true to myself.

She thanked me for my candor. And if she hadn’t, I was willing to accept the possibility. In a way, I had nothing to lose by expressing myself to her that was valuable.

The majority of comments that are positive versus the one ill-thought out negative comment is always a struggle for me and probably most people. I think people that say negative comments say more about their flaws than the flaws they are trying to point out in us.

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