How can I have such a title?  Well, I actually believe it to be true.  I recently wrote a blog about competition and how it you need to ignore them, and I still believe that.  Please read the old post if your interest : What to do about your singing competition?

What I am referring to is sharing the limelight with another singer who is similar to you in a  small group such as a school, church, or community etc…  it is not ideal.

Here’s an example, being that I myself am an opera singer and voice teacher when I meet people I usually get one of two reactions:

1. Wow, I never met someone who sings opera that is so cool how did you get into that…., or I’ve been looking for (know someone who is) a voice teacher. or reaction number

2.  Oh yeah, we have an opera singer at our church, temple, school – she’s awesome, maybe you know her… or

Cool there is a great voice teacher that all the students go to you should see their recitals, amazing…

The ideal reaction obviously is always #2.  The number one reaction (while manageable) means that your  novelty has all ready been spoken for and you are stepping on someone else’s turf.  Which means your opportunities there are all ready being named for someone else.  So for you to go after them, is a bit of a war.

A further example is that I recently moved to a new location.  The schools around here all seem to be connected to previously established teachers.  The congregations have their soloists, and my new friends have their own piano and voice teachers.  I am not letting that shoot me down nor am I pushing to get in professionally with this new crowd.

There is always some where else. I went and found an exclusive gated community and represented myself there to their recreational class schedule.  They immediately accepted me and gave me the freedom to create my own class schedule due to my experience and product line.

I was lucky.  This community had an acting teacher, and a commercial teacher, but just happened to NOT YET have their own voice teacher.  So suddenly I will be the novelty in that community.  I skipped over the area I moved to not wanting to impose or deal with the competition and found my own TURF but a couple miles away.

Becoming the community voice teacher will place me as the GO TO for private vocal students there.  Which is exactly what I was looking for WITHOUT stepping on other teachers or having to push myself in.

Overtime naturally I am sure that I will develop a reputation and be sought out in my own community, but rather then deal with the uphill battle of “convincing people that I Too am worth checking out“, I found my OWN place to be “special”.

This is kind of an odd post, but I am always trying to bring you the honest word for this singing business. If you keep auditioning for a particular theater that all ready has a star in your fach (voice type), then go audition one town over.  This goes for any type of singer.  You need to be as original to the people around you as possible.

If you try and join an improv group that has a funny curly haired chubby Jewish girl, and you to fit that description, your chances are probably shot- the role has been filled, as good as you may be.  Go audition for the theater 10 minutes away that doesn’t have a girl like you instead.

Now certain towns have more opportunities than others.  You need to be where the opportunities are of course, I am not telling everyone to move out to remote areas just to be the only one of your kind.   I am talking about something more specific- your personal community.  It is something for you to think about.  It could be the difference in getting called for roles rather than having to audition for them.

Ariella Vaccarino

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We as singers will ALL encounter people that do NOT like us in our business.  Even worse we will ALL encounter bad people in our singing business who will try to sabotage our careers; tell us the wrong call times, spread nasty rumors to directors about us, give us the worst songs to sing, the latest time slots for auditions, say mean things to us before we have to perform or even worse- during performing(I have a horrible story for that one which I’ll tell in a bit).

This point of this blog is this:

We will ALL encounter people who do NOT like us in our business, bad people even.

(Did she just say that again?)- Yes, I did.  I want it to sink in.  As soon as you accept it as a part of your singing career the easier it will be for you NOT to allow these people to cripple you emotionally when they cross your path.

They are probably unhappy people who feel threatened by what you have going on.  So take it as a compliment.  If you are threatening them with your talent, you must be good.

There is not too much for me to say here.  It is just a warning or reminder about the people you will be encountering along your path.  Try and divorce yourself from the drama of it.  Let them be the drama, you be the professional.

As for the story regarding having bad people say bad things to me WHILE performing.  I was in a show years ago, and one of the characters did not like me because I was offended by the graphic statements he  used to say all the time in rehearsal and had told him, (I was 16 doing the rest of the cast was much older).  Perhaps I was a bit to righteous at that age, but I thought it was ok to stand up for yourself, as long as you were polite about it.

Anyway, he went from loving me, to HATING me (amazing how some people can turn so fast like that).  He decided in a very immature way to remind me regularly how much her HATED me.  We had a table scene in our show where we would all sit and eat and sing our respective lines and then freeze.  While frozen he would quietly say AWEFUL things to me while looking at me every night.  Then he would continue his lines to the audience then freeze and say terrible things to me again while staring at me with a smile.  It was unbelievably awful as I think of it now.   The whole show for me was extremely difficult because of him.  Once he decided not to like me, he made sure to tell everyone bad things about me.  -A nice cozy warm loving experience it WAS NOT for me.

The sad truth is, I lost it one night back stage after all the abuse.  I screamed that I hated him on the top of my lungs and kicked him with all my might in his butt like a psycho.  My shoes were very soft china doll shoes and as a result, I BROKE MY TOE!!!!  Right there in between acts.  I never let on to anyone fear my pride- the pain was insane.  I continued the run with a broken toe still being verbally abused every show.

I was never hired by that organization again because of him.

All very unfair.  He was a complete jerk, (talented though).

But you know what?  There really should be no surprise.  I encountered people like him over and over again throughout my career.  They are always out there.  Just be strong, remove yourself from all of the drama.  Be a professional.

Make friends outside of your career so that you have people to talk to.  Don’t be surprised by the bad people, be prepared for them!

Now heads up, and sing well!

Ariella Vaccarino

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I probably talk about it a lot.  But it is a huge issue with our business.  The singing business.  You just want to get on the stage and sing your heart out, I know.  I was the same, I just wanted the job so I could work hard and sing my best for people- no politics.  Unfortunately, the steps to get there can be quite ugly.  It is very hard to avoid the yuck, as hard as you may try.

I am inspired to write this after a lesson I had last week a student of mine who is fabulous.  She is 11 years old and is truly an insanely good little singer.  Not only can she sing, she is professional and way beyond the normal maturity of an 11 year old girl- a thrill to teach.  (every voice teacher should be blessed with one of these in their studio).

She is a working singer.  Meaning she is regularly getting gigs and being paid to perform which I think is amazing at her age.  Unfortunately, she is all ready at this young age being put into a lot of yucky situations.  And I feel for her.  Because, I too experienced very similar yuck in my own singing career all to often.

I don’t want to get into the details of her situation, but essentially she was banned from an audition which she definitely was made to be cast in  because of some disgruntled person who took something she did negatively a few years ago and spread their dislike and and contempt for her in a poisonous way to to her people in the industry.  As a result she was turned down for an audition by a director who NEVER EVEN MET HER.  That’s right, turned down to be heard for an audition (she is 11), not turned down for the part after being heard at the audition.

This to me is unbelievably disgusting.  To black list an 11 year old girl from hearsay is so sad.   Her resume is huge, she has since then been requested to fly out for a BROADWAY audition because she is so good and professional, but yet, this director who never met her, won’t see her because of hearsay.

But you know what?  It does not surprise me.  This singing professional is filled with stories like this.  There is an ugliness, (or for this blog) YUCK , that will not go away, no matter how hard you try to be nice, do your job, and show up with a smile.  There is always someone who you will cross who will not like you and will spread poisonous words about you.

It is a small business in the sense that so many people know each other.  As a result a simple ugly incident with one person can spread like a flame onto your reputation for many to hear and judge you about for years to follow, without you ever being able to explain your side of the story.

Ahhhh, you may be thinking, Ariella is so dismal today, where is the hope if this is so true?

The hope my readers/singers, is inside you.  Know who you are.  Know why you sing.  Sing for yourself. Find joy in what you are doing outside of what others think.  There are absolutely breaks to be had and wonderful experiences to enjoy in this singing business.  But the dark side is there Jedis (really geeky I know), you need to face it and know what it is so that you are not caught off guard when it hits.  Be prepared.

This student of mine is amazing, she is able to just push a ahead.  She is in New York right now to audition for a Broadway show.  Who knows if she will get it but what an opportunity for an 11 year old.  And on the bright side and something to hold on to, is that her Broadway audition was given to her for the same reason that the other audition wasn’t, it was hearsay from another director who loved her and recommended her. So just goes to show you.  How crazy this business can be.

I wish I could put a glass bubble around all you singers to protect you from the ugliness in this business and allow you to just sing. Unfortunately, I can’t, but you can.  Here’s an older blog I wrote on that subject for further insight:

http://voicelessonstogo.com/blog/singers-build-a-magic-bubble-seal-it-tight-make-sure-your-inside-singing-can-hurt-the-ego

Be strong singers.  Know who you are.  Try and stay neutral, you never know which one you meet may turn out NOT to be your friend.

Ariella Vaccarino

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Thank God I can sing. It allows me the ability to express my emotions through my voice using my whole body as a vessel.   I wonder what would happen to me if I couldn’t sometimes?

I don’t mean to be dramatic but it can be a borderline religious experience for me.  When I don’t do it for a while I feel all shrivelled and empty inside.  When things are really rough there is nothing like singing to release my “pain”.  I don’t mean to be Kurt Cobain about it, but it is the truth.

I don’t know how I would have gotten through my high school days without my guitar and my voice.  I used to get through all those crazy teenage emotions only by picking up my guitar and writing a song.  If my parents were driving me crazy, a guy didn’t like me, or if I was deep in a crush there was me writing a song about it and singing for hours in my room.  It truly kept me sane.

Other people have other ways to do this, for some it is religion, some dance, some yoga, some sports…  For me and most likely you if you are reading this, it is singing.  A form of expression that I can feel through my whole body.  It comes out of me like an extension of myself, and I can let it go and release it. Pretty powerful stuff.

I think people who don’t sing, might not be able to understand that a singer needs to sing.  I often feel like I was born with a 6th sense that I was made to use.  Imagine if you never tasted or heard or saw but could?  The thought of not being able to sing it is that extreme to me.

There of course are levels of singing, from alone in your room on your guitar writing a song to standing center on a stage singing a ballad in a musical.  Everyone I think who sings was born with a different level of singing that they are meant to and need to do.  Some singers feel more of a spiritual connection to it than others.

Singing is an amazing powerful gift, but it can hold us back from living on the “normal” level sometimes.  We as singers can experience such a rush through our bodies when we are really letting go that all else can feel pale compared.

That is why it is important to keep singing regularly, whether you have a pending performance or not. Regular practicing can help you maintain a balance in your “emotive self” as well as maintain and improve your voice.  My days are always better if I start them off with a singing practice.  And if I sing and workout… that is usually a great day.

I think it is important to face what singing is and means to you.  There is more to this singing then performing.  There is the physical and spiritual connection that it allows us to connect to our emotions.  They don’t talk about it in your College Vocal Program.  This is something private that you need to learn to connect with on your own.

We singers are lucky to have been given this amazing tool.  It is a gift that we have been chosen to experience.  Lucky us.

Now go sing.  You were meant to.  Do it for you.

Ariella Vaccarino

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As I have watched American Idol for some added blog inspiration this season, I am really feeling for the singers during their judgement from the panelists.  It brings back a lot of memories for me as a singer when it comes to receiving conflicting advice from your mentors.  It can be extremely confusing to the “green” and even not so “green” singer.  What do you take to heart, what do you learn from, and what do you ignore?

When 4 people are giving you conflicting advice, or even 2 people what do you do?

It is a very hard position to be in as a singer because we want so much to please the people in charge.  We need the job, we want to keep the job, and we have to get the next job.  Think of all the pressure and opinions one singing gig may have:  your teacher, any opposing teachers on your technique, your conductor, your coach, your pianist, your band members, or director, or choreographer, your producer, your agent, your parent, your boyfriend, the music critic, the audience…

Everyone has an opinion on how you should sing and what you should do to make yourself better.  Whether they are talking about your technique, your song choice, your fach (vocal category), your personal style, or your genre of choice.

This is a really tough position to be in.  For example on American Idol last night Randy told Katie Stevens that she was singing perfectly in her R&B genre while Simon Cowell said she was a country singer.  This is a young girl who is very talented who needs to find her way receiving conflicting advice by two highly acclaimed professionals.  How is she supposed to deal with that?

That is a lot of pressure.  All you can do singers is pick a few people to trust who have a great record of experience that you respect and listen to them.  Then take it all in and listen to your gut.  The truth is, it is you standing up there, being judged.  You need to feel 100% true to how you are presenting what you’ve got inside from the truest voice to the most honest emotions conveyed.  You have to be happy with your outfit and your own hair style.  You need to feel connected to your song choice and cozy in your genre selection.

At the end of the day, when the lights come down, the answer is in your gut and instinct. Use a few wise people to help guide you to that true place.  You are the one to receive the acclaim or critique of your performance no matter who told you to do what.  So own your decisions and choices, but make sure you do so with a professional positive attitude.

-I can guarantee you that you will be judged for them.

Sing well people!

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Yes, we all do and will continue to make dumb mistakes in life.  But just remember in the singing business you will always be remembered for those dumb mistakes, so try and avoid them by being professional at all points of your career.

Here are a couple of my own stupid move confessionals of mine.  Perhaps admitting them to the “public” will help free me of them!

The stupid young singer I was- (totally embarrassing to admit)

Out of college I was given a lot of work by different opera companies, I didn’t realize what a big deal that was.  I was very young to the business, during that time and I became overwhelmed by all that needed to be done.  With all my responsibilities, I pulled out of a production that I was supposed to understudy the lead in because it didn’t seem important to me and I really just didn’t want to do it with all the other work I had going on.

What I should have done was declined the offer from the beginning graciously, but I was too uncomfortable to say no.  I kept thinking I would some how deal with it.  I never even opened the score to learn the music and then pulled out just before rehearsals started claiming personal reasons.

This was sooo dumb of me, and so irresponsible. I was so self absorbed (normal for that age but…)  it was just to understudy the part so somehow I felt it was ok at the time.  That forever marked me with that company. Something I would never ever do today, but yet years later I will be remembered as a flake by them.

You must remember that your actions effect everyone around you, not just yourself.

After that last minute drop out of mine, someone was sent in a scurry to find a replacement.  And then some other poor singer had to rush and learn a part.  Totally not fair of me.  I’m sorry for that!

My senior Recital

To contrary belief, the world does NOT revolve around you

Being an Opera singer was my whole focus and world for many years.  When I was a senior at USC I had a senior recital.  This was my main event in school a full length recital that I performed with accompaniment full stage my own program etc…  This was my whole focus- lived and breathed it.

Anyway, the recital went great, and I filled the theater.  But, there were a few people at that time in my life that I had been working under regularly in the music business doing concerts, mentoring with etc…  Some of these people did not attend my concert and I was extremely hurt.  I would even say I felt betrayed by them for not attending.  As a result, I held a “childish” grudge against them, was cold and sulky when I saw them, tried to make them feel guilty etc…  HOW LAME I WAS!

These musicians were older than me and professionals with their own lives and families.  I could not comprehend them not attending my marvelous event on a Saturday night.  But in fact, it was not their responsiblitiy to be there.  I can see now, how hard it would have been for them to attend every concert of every musician that they new and that it really was not a big deal on their spectrum, even though I am sure they had wished me their best.

I should have just sent them a copy with a big smile, and left it at that with no expectations of them watching it.  It proved me to be unprofessional that I took it so personally them not being at my concert.

The truth is, not everyone is going to be your fan. Let your fans be your fans, but never pressure that out of someone.  You don’t want to come off bratty, and childish.

The better you get, and the more concerts you give, the more people will come.  You should not have to beg for it.  I probably am the opposite at this point to a fault.  I rarely let people know, (unless they are on a fan mailing list), that I am performing because I don’t want anyone to feel that pressure in our friendships to attend my concert.  I never want anyone to feel obligated.

All in all, these events happened, but they are not isolated, and I am sure there are many more I’ve done. The impression you give once stays with people.  I still encounter these people in different capacitites years later now and I always feel a bit dumb and “young” around them as a result of my dumb actions in the past even though I have had many years of experience and success in my own life.

Remember, you never know how these people will be in your life in the future and to whom they may spread these stories.  Try and keep your reputation squeaky clean.  Be professional at all times.

Do you have any sage advice on dumb acts that have stuck to you?  Come on, help our readers prevent your own mistakes by sharing them with us!  I would love to hear back from you!

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Ahhhhh! It is hard to be a singer.  The ups and downs can be so extreme on your emotions and ego.  You put yourself out there for people with an “exposed voice” for people to love, and some just don’t. Then they judge, and they say their harsh words, or write their pointed critics without hesitation.

The thing is they see us as these objects, these “singing objects” that they can just compare, cut down, ignore.  But we as people make up that singer.  We are inside that singer.

You sing because you love to sing, feel that you have been given this gift to share.  You need to find a way to protect the innocence of that.  Think of some of our top singers, people grossing millions from some and laughs from others.  There is no black and white taste of what is good in the singing world once you reach a high level.  Take Celine Dion- she is an amazing vocalist, but some people don’t like her music or find her cheesy so they dismiss her as an artist all together even making fun of her when that woman is an awesome talent.  So what if you don’t like what she sings, there is a distinction between talent and taste.

I am inspired to write this after coming out of a rehearsal myself.  I sang so well, and am at such a high level, but one comment made to me that was negative went stab right into my EGO.  My immediate internal reaction to that was that I just wanted to shut down and walk away from the craft.  I even feel shame and embarrassment at times when I hear a negative comment about my singing.  - ridiculous Ariella!

Well folks, this is crap.  Singers have to be strong.  We need to build a crazy strong suit of armor around ourselves and disconnect our emotional reaction to peoples commentary.  This is a job you are doing, don’t take yourself to seriously.  If you can hear something constructive in their words than grow from the comment, if not throw it out, and I mean really throw it out and hold on to all the great comments you received instead.

Why is it we can here 20 great things and the 1 negative keeps us up at night?  I’m with you people, easier said than done, what can you do to protect yourselves?

Create a Magic Super sonic bubble around yourself and bounce the negativity off like a super hero!–seriously.

Also, find a safe place to sing where you are not judged, but rather appreciated. Don’t loose the love for your art.  Sing for that circle of friends, church, or family that makes you feel great. Go sing for a retirement home and fill your heart with appreciation for your gift.  Don’t let the poison in.

The negative comments will always be there.  You have to nourish your ego so that it is able to have a healthy reaction to it all.

Singers, stand tall and strong!

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Do you have it, the “drive” to sing? The internal programing that you did not choose for yourself, but was chosen for you.  Is it the ultimate experience for you, beyond anything.  Is this a good thing?  A blessing or a sentence? Can you not experience full joy without it?  Are you in pain to see others do it when you can not?

Are we addicts to this singing?  Sentenced to a life filled with highs and lows depending on if we have a gig or don’t, if they applaud us or they reject us?  Is anything more important than singing to you?  Can you live without it?  Does the desire for it hold you back from normal routine and happiness?

If you are one of these people:

Why are we like this?  How can we live the day to day like everyone else with the burden or blessing of the “drive “to sing?  How can we commit to a life other than one filled with our truest desire?

It is a hard line to walk.  The desire to sing is something that is only understood by someone else who shares your “drive”.  It sets you apart.  I am not always sure whether it is a good or bad thing.  It would be an easier life without this “drive”, but would you experience anything close to the high of singing without it?

I wonder if it is like a drug in a way; taking us to a place like nothing else can in our bodies.  When we are connected, the sound is resonating through us, and an audience is emerged in it, it is really like nothing else.  But, it does come with a price, and it does cause a lot of pain as well as joy.

I am not talking about the hobbyist singer.  Those people are blessed with a joy for something that they can have fun with, not something they can’t live without.  I am talking about the driven, born stuffed with talent, singer.  I know many of them.  I am one of them- have always been.  We all suffer through our craft at very high costs.  Very few of us ever hit a secure outlet for it and most of us are left wandering for the outlet at a loss, leaving most other pleasures waned for what they are.

I don’t know why we were chosen.  With talent comes responsibility.  The responsibility to share it with others who can only touch it through us.  There is a lot of drama that goes along with all of this.  Your task is to find a healthy balance in life. To find peace in the normal without the singing and extra pleasure with the singing.   Not necessary pleasure, but extra pleasure, there is a difference.

I know a lot of amazing singers who put everything else on hold such as marriage and families because they are all encompassed and “driven” to sing.  A lot of singers think they will do all those other things “after” they have reached a certain level of success through their singing.

My advice to you:  There are no guarantees of fame, fortune or even regular work as a singer, but there is the guarantee that life will go on whether you make it or not.  You will age every day, and time passes whether or not you can fill an auditorium, or amphitheater.

Find joy in life outside of singing. Find peace in yourself without singing success, or you may very well end up living a life full of painful angst.

Why so dark from a voice teacher who sells voice lesson CDs and books?  –I’ve just seen a lot and want to pass on all that I can to you singer hopefuls.  Not only do I want to help people better their voices in their singing pursuits, I want people (singers) to have a chance at happiness and fulfillment no matter what.  I’ve been “around the singing pursuit block” if you will, and have a lot to share with you.

It takes a lot to sing and be a singer.  You can not control your success.  You are not an aspiring lawyer who studies hard goes to school and then practices law.  Don’t base your complete worth on whether you get that lucky break someday.  By all means sing, work hard and go after it, but find out what else makes you happy and fill yourself with those things as well.

Sing well, and find balance.

Ariella Vaccarino creator of Voice Lessons To Go (singing lessons on CD), and author of Vocalize!

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Ooohh, this is an awkward one.  Have you ever been put into a production or performance with people who just weren’t as strong as you were; whether it was their vocal technique, volume, acting skills, or musicianship?  I have and it is not ideal.  Unfortunately, it does tend to bring down the level of the production which can bring down your own performance.

My advice on this one, have a great attitude, befriend your comrade and try and help them out as much as you can.  Offer yourself up for extra rehearsals or to run lyrics.  As long as that person is trying, it is not their fault that there talent or skill set does not match yours.  Be a pro, take them under your wing.   As a result you will help the performance and people will feel your kindness if they see you holding up your fellow performers.

Be proud of your production what ever level it is.  It is hard to get work as a singer and everyone has to start somewhere.     You never know what may be your “break”, so treat every performance with respect and professionalism.

And remember, you may find yourself in the opposite situation at some point.  So spread that good Karma so it comes back around.  With positive reinforcement, you may be surprised as to how much you can pull up another singer.

written by: Ariella Vaccarino creator of Voice Lessons To GO (singing lessons on CD) and author of Vocalize!

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